One of our local grocery stores has little carts. S loves them. Every time we go there, if there are little carts, he wants one. He is pretty good about steering them, but he is 3!
Yesterday, I took A, S and his friend O, to the grocery store with me. They had 2 little carts, so I let S and O get a cart each. They were doing a pretty good job of steering them, not bumping into too many things :)
At one point, we were walking down a main aisle and they were behind me a little as I was searching for something. I hear S scream then say "STOP IT!" I turned around and asked him what was wrong? He looked at me, just so sad and upset and said, "That lady said she was going to spank me". I said, "What?" S: "That mean lady said she was going to spank me". I then told him to show me where this lady was.
Well, down the frozen foods aisle was a woman and her husband, probably in their late 60's. I walked up to her and and said,
"Did you tell my son you were going to spank him?" (I still was in disbelief that I had to ask this)
B (Insert any B word you'd like here): If he didn't stop hitting people with his cart I would.
Me: Well, that is not your place. If you have a problem with my child, you come talk to me, his Mother.
B: I don't think he should have that cart. I don't like those carts, the store shouldn't have them.
Me: Well, they do, so if you don't like it, you should shop somewhere else.
B: Yes, I know. I'm sorry.
Me: Don't apologize to me, apologize to my son.
B: (very patronizingly) I'm sorry.
B's husband: You need to learn him some manners.
Me: He is THREE, he's learning. Man, you all act as if you've never been around children before.
B: (looking quite proud) Oh, we have grandchildren.
Me: Well, I certainly hope you don't treat them like this.
They then walked away, as did I, but I was shaking. You do not threaten my child, or any child for that matter. I don't spank my child, why would it be ok for a complete stranger to??? I just can not believe that this woman would say that to a sweet little child!!!!!! I am still floored and just so saddened by the whole experience. Later, I told S and O to be careful with their carts and he said, "Yeah, or the mean lady will come and spank us". Oh, if she'd laid a hand on my child....GRRRRRRRRRR (that's the Mama Bear in case you didn't know).